I’ve been with my boyfriend for about four years now. We’re both in our mid-30s. I’ve been a widow since 2002. He’s divorced with two boys (six and eight) who we see every other weekend, holidays, etc. We’ve been living together for the last two years and everything is great. We’ve got a dog, the kids seem to love hanging out with us and we’re working on having a kid of our own to round it all out. We’ve been talking about getting hitched recently ... . He’s an engineer by trade and I just don’t think he’s wired to getting me a ring and surprising me. (My late husband was a computer geek, so I’m used to the mindset.) So I’m thinking about proposing to him instead. I’m just stumped as to what to get him ... a ring? I’ve heard of women popping the question to their guys, but I never heard what they exchanged as a token of their affection. You and your readers seem to be very good with advice/suggestions. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
— Loving an E.E.
Why don't you get him a pretty little skirt? I mean, sure he's a dork, but do you have to totally emasculate this guy? Lady, you need to learn what being a woman is really all about, and that's certainly not taking control of a relationship and clearly expressing what you want. It's all about being coy, waiting patiently for the man to make all of the decisions, and dreaming of that perfect diamond that DeBeers tells you you need to feel loved. It's a formula that's served us well for thousands of years - why go put a ring on a guy's finger now and mess it all up?
