Piece of Advice #1: Under Pressure

“Whenever my boyfriend and I are alone at his house, he always starts trying to kiss me and take off my clothes. I always stop him, but then he gets all mad and says that if I don’t do it with him then he’ll break up with me. I really don’t want to lose him, but I’m not ready to go there yet. But the only other single guys my age in my town are losers! Should I give in or just be alone for the rest of my life?” – Alejandra, 14

Alejandra, I think you’ve already answered your own question. I wouldn’t be surprised if you’re reading this while the enchanting sound of your boyfriend’s post-coital snoring fills the air. Don’t worry, everyone feels that sense of regret after sex. It’ll never go away, no matter how many boys you go through trying to ease the pain of feeling dirty and used. That’s just all a part of growing up.

Now, my advice to you: pat yourself on the back, girlfriend. Normally I wouldn’t advise a girl to give into sexual pressure, but you bring up two very key points that all girls your age would be smart to observe. Number one, the other single boys in your town are all losers. God, I know what that’s like. I mean I guess there might be a couple of OK ones who have girlfriends, but let’s face it, at your age they’ve all pretty much settled down. And ugh, the rest of them are like, totally lame! I bet they’re all shorter than you, too. And painfully awkward. They will never get past that, and you will clearly never leave your town, so I think it’s safe to say that you’ve exhausted all your options and you’ll be with your boyfriend forever. He sounds like he’s a real keeper, and not at all a loser. And good thing, too, since you’re really getting up there in years. (That's your second excellent point.) You’re right, if you had let this one slip away, you’d be alone for the rest of your life. Hear that, ladies? Better snatch them up by 14 (13, to be really safe), lock it down, and if they want sex for the love of God give it to them. Bonus tip: If he says it would really feel better without a condom, just go with it. He’s right, plus he’ll dump you if you don’t.